Happy Attachment

Rewrite your history for a happier life with yourself, your mother, and your child(ren)

Do you recognize this?

• Do you often try to solve everything on your own ('I'll do it myself')?
• Do you find it difficult to ask for help?
• Deep down, are you afraid that you're not good enough?
• Are you the people-pleaser who tries to make everyone happy at the expense of yourself?
• Do you have big plans but always postpone them when it comes down to it because 'other things are more important'?
• Do you always try to meet everyone's expectations?
• Or do you always resist authority and struggle with authority figures?

There's a significant chance that something went wrong in your attachment with your mother, the most important person and your first connection to life.

The good news is: with Happy Attachment Therapy, we can resolve this.

According to my clients, you will feel after this session:

• Relieved and much lighter;
• Confident and capable of sharing what's on your mind with your loved ones and asking for help;
• Better at setting clear boundaries and experiencing more enjoyable and smoother interactions with your parent/child;
• More decisive in general and filled with positive energy to pursue your plans;
• Connected to your own (and deep) desires, and you know what you stand for;
• You know what you need to be successful and take care of it;
• Happier and experiencing more joy and flow in general, especially in your relationship with your parent/child.

Happy Attachment therapie

Happy Attachment Therapy is a part of hypnotherapy. It consists of three sessions lasting 90 to 120 minutes each. In the first two sessions, we identify the Attachment Disruptive Events (ADEs). In the second session, we address and resolve these events and install your ideal pregnancy and birth experience, along with everything surrounding it. In the third and final session, we reinforce the new situation, empowering you to move forward with great strength. You'll go through this process alone; there's no need to bring your mother or child with you.

For You and Your Mother

So, we identify all Attachment Disruptive Events (ADEs) and completely remove them from your system. Afterward, we install the ideal conditions, pregnancy, birth, and the first years of your life. This transformation allows pain and sorrow to be turned into a healthy self-image, enabling you to regain or increase your self-confidence in yourself and in life.

For You and Your Child

We identify all Attachment Disruptive Events (ADEs) and completely remove them from your system. Afterward, we install the ideal conditions, pregnancy, birth, and the first years of your child's life.

Outcome of Happy Attachment Therapy

The source of mutual misunderstanding, irritation, and/or distance has been removed. This creates the space needed in the relationship between mother and child to fully accept each other and develop a loving and understanding bond.

Why Should You Do Happy Attachment Therapy with Your Mother?

Well, why indeed. After all, you've already survived the first... many years with your mother, haven't you? Certainly, but perhaps with a lot of struggles. Many of those struggles stem from not feeling entirely safe or welcome and not fully trusting the world and its inhabitants.

This is where the tendency to solve everything on your own comes from. You may not have gained much experience with positive attention, understanding, or support from your parents. This makes it difficult to trust that people want, can, and will help you. You're much better at taking care of others than allowing yourself to be taken care of (or taking good care of yourself). You quickly feel like a burden to others. Deep down, there may be a nagging fear that you're not good enough and that you don't actually deserve attention or love.

And here's another classic: you've always found it challenging to build a (close) relationship with your own mother. It's as if you couldn't quite reach her. Not because she wasn't a good mother, but because a lot can go wrong in the period before, during, and after pregnancy and childbirth.

Why Should You Do Happy Attachment Therapy with Your Child?

Just like every mother, you want to enjoy your child. Many mothers feel guilty when that doesn't happen. If you feel like there's something coming between you and your child - no matter how old they are - you can remove that barrier. Or you may be concerned about your child because you have difficulty connecting, you constantly argue, your child has been feeling down for a long time, is very insecure or afraid, or displays boundary-crossing behavior that leads to weekly meetings at school. These could be signs of insecure attachment. Not because you're a bad mother, but because life sometimes brings circumstances beyond your control. It's like starting anew and creating the conditions you wished for.

Click here to read about how Happy Attachment Therapy has helped me. You'll find out how my insecurity melted away like snow in the sun after the therapy, and how I began to feel safe and supported.

You can undergo Happy Attachment Therapy for yourself and your mother if you want to strengthen the bond with your mother and life, and also for you and your child(ren) if you want to enhance the connection with your child or if you notice that your child has been struggling for an extended period.

Attachment in an Ideal World

In an ideal world, everyone is securely attached. In an ideal world, an expectant mother experiences no stress during pregnancy, she can calmly stroke her belly while sitting on the couch and chat with her baby. Her partner is always attentive to her, and she has months of time and tranquility to bond with her child before and after childbirth. They spend carefree and idyllic years together, all following a smooth home birth without complications. And, of course, it's an easy baby who quickly sleeps through the night and thrives thanks to an abundance of (breast)feeding and a daily dose of cuddles.

Yeah right! Maybe in la-la-land, but in the real world, things often go differently, and all sorts of Attachment Disruptive Events (ADEs) can occur. When attachment doesn't go exactly as planned, it can lead to various issues, and these can persist throughout a lifetime.

That's life, shit happens, or in other words, all those Attachment Disruptive Events are a part of life. And we're only human. Of course, as a mother, you want the best for your child, but sometimes things just happen that can hinder secure attachment. No one is to blame for that, but we still tend to feel guilty or ashamed quickly. Living with a sense of guilt or shame can be very sabotaging and destructive and can hinder the realization of deep desires, leading to symptoms as mentioned above.

So, what are these Attachment Disruptive Events? Here are some examples:

• The death of significant people (e.g., your parents) Parents with unresolved grief or trauma
• A move or home renovation
• Work-related stress / job loss for you or your partner
• One or more miscarriages
• Years of frustration and sorrow before succeeding in getting pregnant
• A difficult pregnancy
• Relationship problems / your partner cheats
• Childbirth doesn't go as planned: cesarean section instead of your dreamed-of water birth
• Postpartum depression
• Your baby spends a long time in the incubator
• You have a colicky baby, and no doctor can help
• Family problems
• You have to return to work exhausted after only 12 weeks

On many of these matters, you had no control. Now, you do. We'll remove all of them and replace them with your envisioned experiences.

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For attachment disorders that have arisen due to factors such as addiction by one or both parents, the early death of one of the parents, domestic violence that the child couldn't be protected from, prolonged poverty, abuse and neglect, or growing up in foster care or through adoption, I recommend consulting your primary care physician or a psychologist.

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Testimonials Happy Attachment

Below, you can read how Happy Attachment Therapy changed the lives of Hannette and her adult son.

Happy Attachment between Mother and (Adult) Child

Read how Denise finally became a happy mother through the Happy Attachment session

Happy Attachment with My Mother:

I was unlucky enough to be a 'Rh baby' and spent the first week of my life all alone in the hospital. I received new blood through a so-called exchange transfusion. Quite intense for a newborn, but it was that or death. My arrival wasn't planned and came at an inconvenient time: my parents were very busy with the construction of their new store and the subsequent move. Three months after my birth, the new business opened, and my mother was needed more than ever. Little time and space for a baby. I once asked my mother, "Were you happy with me?" She replied, "Once you were here, I was." I've always had some flair, which made it seem like I had loads of self-confidence. That wasn't the case. I struggled with feeling welcome, feeling like there was a place for me. Asking for help or support was complicated for me. I automatically assumed that I would be seen as a burden or that no one had time to help me. So, I figured things out on my own. For example, I remember a situation when I was 10 years old and had to undergo a sports physical. I had to bring a urine sample. I filled an old-fashioned milk bottle almost three-quarters full with urine and worried about how to get it to the examination without spilling it while riding my bike. Of course, that didn't work out either. Luckily, it was our family doctor who told me that a small amount in a small jar would have sufficed. Hadn't my mother said that? I was so ashamed, both of myself and for my mother, who was always so busy. In the last ten years of her life, my mother and I had a very good relationship. Nevertheless, there was always that lack of basic trust in life and that there was help and support available for me. It got me into big trouble at work more than once because I kept struggling without approaching my supervisor and admitting that things weren't going well. I understood that my being 'unplanned' and that first lonely week in the hospital had something to do with it. So when the opportunity arose to do a Happy Attachment session, I seized it immediately. It seemed fantastic to be able to clear up everything that had stood between my mother and me. And it was. It made room for something new! Even more beautiful was installing my ideal birth. The most important thing I rewrote was that my mother went to the hospital with me. In my dream version, she jumped out of bed and said the healing words, "Did you think I would leave my girl all alone?! Of course, I'm going with her, and I'll stay until she can come home." And so, we had a wonderfully peaceful first week together; I soaked up her love and attention and mother's milk. Although I 'rationally' know that this didn't happen that way, it feels like it did. I feel welcome and loved and brim with self-confidence. I'm happy and content with myself and have full confidence that everything is and will be okay. I ask for help when I need it and no longer stress about making a mistake; I just correct it. In short, I have inner peace. I wish that for everyone!

After the attachment sessions for me and my daughters, our bond has improved so much!